The twentieth century ushered in many sociological changes in America and especially to the Christian concept of family. The most damaging to date is same-sex marriage. This seemingly benign alteration of civil partnerships, I predict, will be the foundation stone to the ultimate dismissal of what defines a family and its participants. This issue of same-sex marriage will open doors in society that will be pragmatically and legally impossible to close.
Being a devout Biblicist, I take the traditional view of marriage between a man and a woman. This is not revolutionary. The Bible is very clear on how God wills us to partake in this union, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24 ESV). At the very beginning of creation, God sets the standard of how and who we are to betroth ourselves to each other. He is setting up a covenantal relationship between one man and one woman, approved and honored by God. Jesus echoes this decree during his ministry, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? So, they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate” (Matthew 19:5-6). From a biblical perspective, there is no ambiguity as to what comprises matrimony. This has been the benchmark for marital status for over two thousand years. Without the occasional hiccups, it has held up stable communities since the dawn of civilization.
To the believing Christian, this is straightforward and easy to comprehend. However, this means very little, if nothing, to those millions of Americans out there that do not believe in God, or his decree for the covenantal relationship between a man and a woman. This does not discount the potential danger of redefining marriage between whomever, or whatever “they” want. I believe that opening marriage up to subjective definitions will unleash a floodgate of absurdity and debauchery that will eventually ruin the American family.
First, we need to examine how we view marriage. Gary Chapmans writes, when we think of marriage, we usually do so in terms of a contract rather than a covenant. In reality, the two words are quite different.” This is important because of civil unions and the evolution of marriage in America. No longer does the average person, even Christian view marriage as a covenantal relationship. We know this from a staggering rise is a divorce in America. The divorce rate is now one in two and studies show it is contagious. Brown University did a study where they analyzed three decades of data and found that “study participants were 75% more likely to become divorced if a friend is divorced and 33% more likely to end their marriage if a friend of a friend is divorced. So, divorce is contagious…and you can catch the divorce bug from your friends—even from a friend of a friend?” Divorce is on the rise and shows not hit of stopping. From this and other statistics, we can easily infer that the covenantal relationship is no longer valued, basically, marriage is viewed as a contract agreement.
If the population merely views marriage as a contract, then basically anything goes. Chapman goes on to define contracts; “basically, a contract is an agreement between two or more persons specifying that one will do something if the other will do something.” The definition of a person is rather loose, after all, what constitutes a person legally? In 1992, an heiress left millions of dollars to her German Shepard. Michael Jackson gave over two million dollars to his pet monkey! This level of absurdity will now roll over to marriage. If a marriage has no parametrical definition, then anyone can marry anyone or anything. Over a decade ago, basketball sensation Dennis Rodman showed up to court in order to marry, himself. America is full of provocateurs who will, without provocation, bend the laws for sensationalism. If the covenantal relationship of marriage is not defined by a man and a woman, men and women will redefine it along with legal means that meet contractarian standards.
Another detrimental aspect of same-sex marriage is the inevitable polygamy, incest, and beastiality component. If legalized marriage is afforded to same-sex unions, why would this right be legally denied to men who (religiously) wish to marry several wives? Moreover, how about men or women who wish to marry their siblings, or individuals that apply for the right to marry their pets. It would be dangerously naive to believe that such a case will not be brought up. The pornographic channels are festooned with beastiality videos and Hollywood has secretly writing in incest scenarios into mainstream movies and hit shows; i.e. Taboo, Game of Thrones, Dexter, etc. In 2016, the Movie of the Year Oscar winner was a woman who fell in love with and had sex with a fish (man), Color of Water.
It is easy to write of religion and religious fundamentalism concerning same-sex marriage. It is unwise to thrust aside the obvious slippery-slope that same-sex marriage has opened for the profane, provocative, or the outright antidisestablishmentarian. People will trample on everything marriage stands for just to watch it crumble. They will do this in the name of progress and they will do this in spite of God.
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